weekly: laziness shouldn’t be a thing
I'm writing today’s email from bed with a stuffy nose.
Saltine crackers in hand.
Nestled under a fluffy comforter.
Surrendered to a limited capacity for the week.
There were a few things I wanted to start.
But there's only so much this mama can do.
No such thing as laziness
Which made me think of a pressure many of us face:
Feeling guilty for prioritizing rest and not being “productive”.
That too many days off the clock means we'll be lazy forever.
So, let's set the record straight.
For my sake and maybe yours:
There’s no such thing as laziness.
If we decide to leave the house messier because we're too exhausted, that's more productive than half cleaning and guilt-tripping ourselves about it.
Kindness motivates more than guilt
“For a long time, when I chose to cut corners with care tasks I would feel immense guilt at being irresponsible. Yet where did I get the message that choosing to prioritize rest over the dishes for one night is irresponsible? The problem isn’t that I chose to rest instead of clean the kitchen; it’s that I told myself I was being a bad person by doing so.”
The underlying fear is that if we embrace being kind to ourselves, we’ll stay unfunctional forever.
If we're not constantly doing something, we'll lose momentum and become lazy forever.
But it's this exact thinking that demotivates us.
Resting and showing ourselves kindness gives us the motivation we seek.
In case this helps, here's a permission slip to rest if you need it.
As we switch gears to the last months of the year you may enjoy this podcast episode.
It's a reminder of what can happen when we give ourselves the space to explore and to be.
Just exist.
Be present.
You’ll be amazed at what unfolds.
You'll hear how I learned this lesson from a homeless man in Central Park and a few ideas to help you integrate the concept of creating more space into your life.
Good Thinking
I am kind to myself and rest when I need it.
Good Action
Schedule an artist date to fill your creative well.
It doesn't have to be lengthy or expensive.
Pick something that seems fun or interesting.
Feel free to let me know what you decide!
Good Question
Move up the ladder to higher vibrations by writing at the top of a blank page and see what flows from your pen (no judgment or editing!):
What does my body need today?
Good Book
If you've ever struggled with your to-do list or feel overwhelmed by a messy home, this book is the antidote you need.
Especially if you consider yourself neurodivergent, a parent, or both.
KC Davis, a therapist and mom, removes the morality behind messiness.
She talks about letting go of the shame-based messaging that interprets a pile of dirty laundry as “I can never keep up” and a chaotic kitchen as “I’m a bad mother.”
To take a section from her book blurb on Amazon:
"Your home will feel like a sanctuary again. It will become a place to rest, even when things aren’t finished. You will move with ease, and peace and calm will edge out guilt, self-criticism, and endless checklists. They have no place here."
Sparks of Joy
Halloween: it’s a comforting and cozy feeling seeing our decorations around the apartment. As I'm adding Halloween movies to our list on Hulu and Netflix I can't wait to welcome October!
Healthy: feeling well after a week of being sick is glorious. I finally got the house cleaned up and the fridge stocked. Blessed.
New food: my brother visited us in the city and wanted to try Georgian food. A cuisine I never thought to try. But after trying their cheese bread and Khinkali (dumplings), I became hooked! Branching out and trying new things is the new black.
Extra Goodies
Good Read: The illusion of being busy.
Good Quote: Julia Cameron's timeless wisdom on nurturing our creativity:
“The essential element in nurturing our creativity lies in nurturing ourselves. Through self-nurturance we nurture our inner connection to the Great Creator. Through this connection our creativity will unfold. Paths will appear for us. We need to trust the Great Creator and move out in faith.”
Good Tip: A different way to sauté zucchini. Yay or nay?
Good List: 10 books for inspiration.
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